Porn Sex?

Following a link on Twitter led me to Good Vibrations Magazine and an article on a website called Make Love, Not Porn. They assert that sex in porn is not realistic at all and set up a porn sex versus real-world sex dichotomy. On the one hand, I agree because porn can be rather dramatic with the orgasms and money shots and such. On the other more accurate hand, sexuality is far too diverse to say some people do not genuinely act this way during sex. And true enough, porn is not sex education as RenEv explain in her fantastic post on the subject.

Other rather dense claims are made like "in porn world, all women love anal sex". While the site admits that some women do and some don't, it doesn't seem to acknowledge the fact that most anal sex scenes take place in porn that is specifically catering to that desire. Why not just make the claim, "in porn world, all women love sex" and have it seem like some revealed truth? Another is that porn world is all about the genital close-ups and angles but in the real world people like to be close together and feel skin-on-skin contact. Well of course there's a difference, the whole point of porn is to sexually arouse a person as soon as possible. Your porn DVD is not your lover.

This is what people fail to understand about sex: it cannot and will not be corralled into a little box for our comfort. Sex is a Force of Nature.

At the Good Vibes mag, they had this screenshot:


I responded:

Well, I must be a porn chick, because going straight for my pleasure zone gets me wet and ready within five minutes and then I last for the rest of the day. I think it’s a bit narrow to exclude the porn scenario from women’s sexuality because, as I just testified, there ARE women for whom that works and who prefer that approach to sex. What’s important is knowing what your lover wants just asking them and exploring their body (ies) and reading responses. That applies whether you’ve known them for a few minutes or for several years.

Not that the so-called “real world” way doesn’t work for me, because it does. I’m a very sexual and sensual woman and there’s not just one pathway to my lust and pleasure.

This site is suspicious in its intent and its rather patronizing (and at times moralizing) tone reminds me too much of the dubious The Price of Pleasure, which I reviewed in a previous post. Like I said in my comment above, sexuality is a wide range and that makes people uncomfortable. We've been told all our lives that there's only one true, good way to have sex and everything else is wrong, icky, to be avoided. I don't know who the person behind the curtain of this website is. I would really like to know.